Determination and Patience
Determination is the strength that will enable you to pass the barrier of useless thoughts in order to create positive thoughts and to be successful in whatever you wish. It comes from within and its partner is patience.
Patience teaches you not to push but rather to wait and appreciate the game of life instead, knowing that nothing remains the same, and everything will change at some point.
It is natural to feel worry and tension in a difficult situation – or to run away from the situation altogether. Although this may work for a short time, it is not a solution.
We have to draw upon inner courage in order to meet the challenges head on. When we do this, we often realise it is not as bad as it first appeared.
It takes great courage to be honest. One of the noblest qualities in a person is the ability to say, “I am sorry, I was wrong, you were right”. It doesn’t really matter about being right, winning arguments or having my ideas accepted. It matters more that I am able to recognise my mistakes, take responsibility for them, learn the lesson and move forward with greater maturity.
Don’t Give Sorrow, Don’t Take Sorrow!
Don’t give sorrow, don’t take sorrow! The qualities that stop me giving sorrow are mercy, love and honesty. If someone has these, they will never even think of giving sorrow. I need to be merciful not to give sorrow and I need to be strong in order not to take sorrow. In fact, the moment you stop taking sorrow, you days of happiness have begun.
These are your eyes, your ears and your lips – it is up to you whether to take sorrow or not.
Beyond Surface Beauty!
Most of us think too much, especially about events and people, local and global, famous and not so famous. When we are always thinking about what is happening on the surface of life, the visible, then it is as if we are living a superficial life. And when two people who both live on the surface meet, the exchange, the conversation, is superficial, sometimes totally bereft of meaning. Often it leaves us totally unsatisfied. And as we share news of our surface observations, we come to know our own superficiality, but we are not strong enough to resist it. Deep down inside there is a voice, a longing, a calling to depth. It’s our heart, reminding us to visit, explore and express the depths of our ourselves.
Everyone has depth but we confuse the heart with emotion, and forget that emotion is the result of getting too close to events on the surface. So one of our deepest needs, which is to go in deep, is seldom satisfied. Going deep and being deep requires time spent in solitude, some periods of introversion and a conversation with ourselves. We only know what is at the bottom of the ocean by going there, diving deep and switching on a light and looking through the lens of a camera. The results are images of depth.
How on earth will we ever see what is in our heart unless we dive deep inside, switch on the light and look. Those who do will tell you it changes everything. What do they see? Simple, only beauty and truth. They are always there, waiting for us to return. Waiting to welcome us and to introduce ourselves to us and to others.
Even if I don’t mean to be critical, I often unconsciously focus on others’ weaknesses and mistakes. The more I develop the habit of noticing goodness and only holding on to the good in others and in situations, the more my own sense of well-being will rise.
When I continually think: ‘He/She is wrong’, I create a barrier that prevents me from reaching my own goodness.